To Grin and Bear
Empath: Astonishingly, this is a term coined by somebody, somewhere, at some time! In essence it’s not even a word. Its origins are largely based in 1970’s New-Age spirituality which was heavily influenced by eastern religions, ideologies and cultures . . . if not the occult itself! In bygone times, before the dawn of the New-Age, this terminology was previously known as spiritual gifts. These gifts are available to everyone i.e. discernment of spirits, teaching, helping, speaking, forgiveness, mercy etc. In the aftermath of narcissistic abuse research is a vital component to healing, searching the internet you’ll find thousands of videos about empaths, all claiming all kinds of crazy. Each level deeper gets you, naturally gets you a level darker. Falling into a rabbit-hole and digging deeper, you’ll eventually lose sight of the light and end up in a dark place. If you ever find yourself, referring to yourself as a Starseed looking for your twin-flame, adorned with energy healing crystals, backpacking through India, seeking a mystic or Guru in order to realign your Chakras and holistically colour tinge your Auras . . . you’ve gone way too far! Follow the term Empath far enough, its likely you’ll stumble into a world of esoteric beliefs, where your thoughts create your reality. It’s only a matter of time before you’ll find some old sleazy grey-haired bloke, the colour of a mahogany wardrobe, spouting absolute shite about manifesting your dreams. The reason you haven’t had a dream life, getting ensnared by a toxic abuser, is because you were manifesting all wrong! But if you sign up his ten-week course and buy all his books you’ll probably figure out why he can afford to have a luxury yacht parked up, in the middle of a desolate desert. The Empath vs Narcissistic dynamic: The concept that the narcissist intentionally chose you, instead of someone else, was because you are an empath and they could sense your energy, is a false belief and clearly wrong! Identifying with a label such as an Empath kinda sets you apart from everyone else, more spiritually advanced and uniquely special – which at some level kinda puts you on par with the mindset of your narcissistic abuser. Empathy and Empathic: These actually are words! Both can used separately or interchangeably, to describe emotional intelligence or emotional quotient (EQ). The ability to acknowledge that you have your own emotions and acceptance of the emotions and needs of other people. The awareness of how your words and actions, can leave a positive or negative psychological impression on others. In relationships dynamics, narcissistic folk target strong and grounded partners, ones who are naturally high in empathic traits i.e. loving, generous, kind and forgiving. They say opposites attract, and at a core level a narcissist is the exact opposite. The attraction is one of genuine admiration for you, and absolute envy that they cant be you. While narcissists may aspire to have empathic traits themselves, they are too self-focused and self-centred to care about others! An inner sense of self-loathing is masked by the creation of a false-self, this new identity will be modelled on the empathic traits of the new partner. Empathic partners will naturally put the needs of others, before their own needs clearly to a fault! They will forgive transgressions of others from a place of understanding. They will assume fault in any misunderstandings, fall into people pleasing mode for the sake of others, alter their own behaviours to accommodate others, yielded to demands for the sake of the relationship and thus self-sacrifice. Eventually they will have given away so much of themselves, that by default, they will also have lost themselves!
Where art meets psychology.
What is an Empath?
Where art meets psychology.
To Grin and Bear
Where art meets psychology.
What is an Empath?
Empath: Astonishingly, this is a term coined by somebody, somewhere, at some time! In essence it’s not even a word. Its origins are largely based in 1970’s New-Age spirituality which was heavily influenced by eastern religions, ideologies and cultures . . . if not the occult itself! In bygone times, before the dawn of the New-Age, this terminology was previously known as spiritual gifts. These gifts are available to everyone i.e. discernment of spirits, teaching, helping, speaking, forgiveness, mercy etc. In the aftermath of narcissistic abuse research is a vital component to healing, searching the internet you’ll find thousands of videos about empaths, all claiming all kinds of crazy. Each level deeper gets you, naturally gets you a level darker. Falling into a rabbit-hole and digging deeper, you’ll eventually lose sight of the light and end up in a dark place. If you ever find yourself, referring to yourself as a Starseed looking for your twin-flame, adorned with energy healing crystals, backpacking through India, seeking a mystic or Guru in order to realign your Chakras and holistically colour tinge your Auras . . . you’ve gone way too far! Follow the term Empath far enough, its likely you’ll stumble into a world of esoteric beliefs, where your thoughts create your reality. It’s only a matter of time before you’ll find some old sleazy grey-haired bloke, the colour of a mahogany wardrobe, spouting absolute shite about manifesting your dreams. The reason you haven’t had a dream life, getting ensnared by a toxic abuser, is because you were manifesting all wrong! But if you sign up his ten-week course and buy all his books – you’ll probably figure out why he can afford to have a luxury yacht parked up, in the middle of a desolate desert. The Empath vs Narcissistic dynamic: The concept that the narcissist intentionally chose you, instead of someone else, was because you are an empath and they could sense your energy, is a false belief and clearly wrong! Identifying with a label such as an Empath kinda sets you apart from everyone else, more spiritually advanced and uniquely special – which at some level kinda puts you on par with the mindset of your narcissistic abuser. Empathy and Empathic: These actually are words! Both can used separately or interchangeably, to describe emotional intelligence or emotional quotient (EQ).The ability to acknowledge that you have your own emotions and acceptance of the emotions and needs of other people. The awareness of how your words and actions, can leave a positive or negative psychological impression on others. In relationships dynamics, narcissistic folk target strong and grounded partners, ones who are naturally high in empathic traits i.e. loving, generous, kind and forgiving. They say opposites attract, and at a core level a narcissist is the exact opposite. The attraction is one of genuine admiration for you, and absolute envy, that they cant be you. While narcissists may aspire to have empathic traits themselves, they are too self-focused and self-centred to care about others! An inner sense of self-loathing is masked by the creation of a false-self, this new identity will be modelled on the empathic traits of the new partner. Empathic partners will naturally put the needs of others, before their own needs – clearly to a fault! They will forgive transgressions of others from a place of understanding. They will assume fault in any misunderstandings, fall into people pleasing mode for the sake of others, alter their own behaviours to accommodate others, yielded to demands for the sake of the relationship and thus self-sacrifice. Eventually they will have given away so much of themselves, that by default, they will also have lost themselves!
TO GRIN AND BEAR TO GRIN AND BEAR