To Grin and Bear
Empath:
Astonishingly,
this
is
a
term
coined
by
somebody,
somewhere,
at
some
time!
In
essence
it’s
not
even
a
word.
Its
origins
are
largely
based
in
1970’s
New-Age
spirituality which was heavily influenced by eastern religions, ideologies and cultures . . . if not the occult itself!
In
bygone
times,
before
the
dawn
of
the
New-Age,
this
terminology
was
previously
known
as
spiritual
gifts.
These
gifts
are
available
to
everyone
i.e.
discernment
of
spirits,
teaching,
helping,
speaking,
forgiveness,
mercy
etc.
In
the
aftermath
of
narcissistic
abuse
research
is
a
vital
component
to
healing,
searching
the
internet
you’ll
find thousands of videos about empaths, all claiming all kinds of crazy.
Each
level
deeper
gets
you,
naturally
gets
you
a
level
darker.
Falling
into
a
rabbit-hole
and
digging
deeper,
you’ll
eventually
lose
sight
of
the
light
and
end
up
in
a
dark
place.
If
you
ever
find
yourself,
referring
to
yourself
as
a
Starseed
looking
for
your
twin-flame,
adorned
with
energy
healing
crystals,
backpacking
through
India,
seeking a mystic or Guru in order to realign your Chakras and holistically colour tinge your Auras . . . you’ve gone way too far!
Follow
the
term
Empath
far
enough,
its
likely
you’ll
stumble
into
a
world
of
esoteric
beliefs,
where
your
thoughts
create
your
reality.
It’s
only
a
matter
of
time
before
you’ll
find
some
old
sleazy
grey-haired
bloke,
the
colour
of
a
mahogany
wardrobe,
spouting
absolute
shite
about
manifesting
your
dreams.
The
reason
you
haven’t
had
a
dream
life,
getting
ensnared
by
a
toxic
abuser,
is
because
you
were
manifesting
all
wrong!
But
if
you
sign
up
his
ten-week
course
and
buy
all
his
books
–
you’ll
probably figure out why he can afford to have a luxury yacht parked up, in the middle of a desolate desert.
The
Empath
vs
Narcissistic
dynamic:
The
concept
that
the
narcissist
intentionally
chose
you,
instead
of
someone
else,
was
because
you
are
an
empath
and
they
could
sense
your
energy,
is
a
false
belief
and
clearly
wrong!
Identifying
with
a
label
such
as
an
Empath
kinda
sets
you
apart
from
everyone
else,
more
spiritually
advanced and uniquely special – which at some level kinda puts you on par with the mindset of your narcissistic abuser.
Empathy
and
Empathic:
These
actually
are
words!
Both
can
used
separately
or
interchangeably,
to
describe
emotional
intelligence
or
emotional
quotient
(EQ).
The
ability
to
acknowledge
that
you
have
your
own
emotions
and
acceptance
of
the
emotions
and
needs
of
other
people.
The
awareness
of
how
your
words
and
actions,
can leave a positive or negative psychological impression on others.
In
relationships
dynamics,
narcissistic
folk
target
strong
and
grounded
partners,
ones
who
are
naturally
high
in
empathic
traits
i.e.
loving,
generous,
kind
and
forgiving.
They
say
opposites
attract,
and
at
a
core
level
a
narcissist
is
the
exact
opposite.
The
attraction
is
one
of
genuine
admiration
for
you,
and
absolute
envy
that
they
cant
be
you.
While
narcissists
may
aspire
to
have
empathic
traits
themselves,
they
are
too
self-focused
and
self-centred
to
care
about
others!
An
inner
sense
of
self-loathing is masked by the creation of a false-self, this new identity will be modelled on the empathic traits of the new partner.
Empathic
partners
will
naturally
put
the
needs
of
others,
before
their
own
needs
–
clearly
to
a
fault!
They
will
forgive
transgressions
of
others
from
a
place
of
understanding.
They
will
assume
fault
in
any
misunderstandings,
fall
into
people
pleasing
mode
for
the
sake
of
others,
alter
their
own
behaviours
to
accommodate
others,
yielded
to
demands
for
the
sake
of
the
relationship
and
thus
self-sacrifice.
Eventually
they
will
have
given
away
so
much
of
themselves,
that
by
default,
they
will
also have lost themselves!
Where art meets psychology.
What is an Empath?
Where art meets psychology.