To Grin and Bear
Is narcissism contagious? Nope! No need to worry - but, to be extra safe its best to keep some distance. If you do display any symptoms of narcissistic trait behaviours, these are possibly just behavioural traits that you’ve inherited from a narcissistic upbringing. You can always cure yourself by the ability to look deep within, alter your own behaviours and amend your emotional reactions, accordingly. Can it be cured? No is the short answer! Although, years ago, way back when, some bloke appeared on the scene, he reckoned that he had a magical cure - a gifted healer, a man who could cure the sick and make the blind see. Alas his only cure for narcissistic personality disorder involved something to do with a herd of pigs and a cliff. Times have changed and one cannot be seen to be advocating such cruelty to pigs, yet some therapists nowadays claim that NPD is curable. Only as these narcissistic folk are masters of deception, renowned for their cunning abilities - highly delusional or highly gullible therapists, could be more likely to blame for such wild claims! So, the jury is still out on that one. Do narcissists improve with age? No! Narcissists are not like wine, and they’ll only get worse! They’ll age more like milk by turning sour. Are narcissists dangerous? Yes! They can be very dangerous! Especially when enraged or protecting their fragile but inflated ego. As they have no real empathy for anyone outside of themselves, morals or ethics - the more malignant the narcissist, the more dangers you’ll face - so, best run! Can you fight them at their own game and win? Absolutely! But be aware some malignant narcissists are fully prepared to destroy themselves in order to destroy you - it will be a long hard battle fought in the gutter, and even if you are triumphant, perhaps it’s a gutter from which you’ll never fully remerge. Its best to adopt a stoic mindset grounded in indifference, stand back and let them fall into one of their own traps. Is narcissistic abuse on the rise? Yes, is the answer! It has been on the increase since the 1970’s and has now become trend or even an epidemic. No doubt fuelled by the rise of social media platforms, where one can assume complete autonomy and project a false sense of self. Often done with the intention to provoke a sense of envy in others, as those with narcissistic tendencies, naturally assume that because they themselves are envious of others, others will also be envious of them. How common are narcissists? Very common! Narcissistic abuse runs through the very fabric of society, adding to the dysfunction and breakdown of society. Often unbeknownst traits of this behaviour are also inherent within most familial upbringings, but largely remain undetected. Official figures can vairy and typically fluctuate at between three and eight percent of the total population. Abuse survivors based on their own experiences put this figure much higher again at between twenty and forty percent. On a more spiritual level those familiar with the concept of the journey of the Old Soul put the figure much higher again, at an eighty percent toxic to a twenty percent non-toxic ratio . . . and as many old souls again, have difficulty finding the missing twenty percent. So, could the real figure be even higher again? For the most accurate up to date statistic you might have to use a hat, filled with numerically numbered pieces of paper, dip your hand in, pull a number out, and go with that figure, as being the most official and accurate statistic. Is it all down to bad parenting? Well, yes, no and maybe? Some say the root causes for narcissism can either be the result of neglect by the parents or even the excessive over admiration by the parents. While no parent alive today would openly admit to being a bad parent, however, the same people might reminisce on their own childhood experiences would admit that perhaps their own parents could have done a better job. While everyone has some baggage in their childhood, but you grow up you learn to forgive. It’s likely though that narcissism steams from abuse or trauma encountered some in the early development stages, as they all exhibit the exact same trait behaviours. Children in the early development stages of life, learn incrementally - empathy is typically learned around the ages of two, three or four. As low levels of empathy may be an indication that trauma occurred then, which ties with the frequent regression traits in behaviour. Narcissists at a core level are just oversized children and when triggered, they regress back into the age at which the wounding occurred . . . otherwise the trait behaviours would be unique to each individual, and thus the dysfunctional characteristic behaviours would also be far more creative and far more dynamic. Is narcissism male or female trait? They can be one or the other, neither or both, and everything else in between! While females display more narcissistic traits than males, narcissistic, however, males account for sixty percent of the total figure, according to official figures. But as few men will openly admit to suffering at the hands of a female abuser, it’s likely that a high percentage of male abuse, goes undocumented. The common diagnoses of borderline personality disorder are almost solely reserved for the female population. Misdiagnoses might skew the statistics somewhat, as trait behaviours among the Cluster B’s overlap when triggered or in a ragging state of mind or maybe they manifest differently between both sexes. Many working within the abuse communities say the real figure is around a fifty-fifty split.
Where art meets psychology.
Questions about narcissism.
Where art meets psychology.
To Grin and Bear
Is narcissism contagious? Nope! No need to worry - but, to be extra safe its best to keep some distance. If you do display any symptoms of narcissistic trait behaviours, these are possibly just behavioural traits that you’ve inherited from a narcissistic upbringing. You can always cure yourself by the ability to look deep within, alter your own behaviours and amend your emotional reactions, accordingly. Can it be cured? No is the short answer! Although, years ago, way back when, some bloke appeared on the scene, he reckoned that he had a magical cure - a gifted healer, a man who could cure the sick and make the blind see. Alas his only cure for narcissistic personality disorder involved something to do with a herd of pigs and a cliff. Times have changed and one cannot be seen to be advocating such cruelty to pigs, yet some therapists nowadays claim that NPD is curable. Only as these narcissistic folk are masters of deception, renowned for their cunning abilities - highly delusional or highly gullible therapists, could be more likely to blame for such wild claims! So, the jury is still out on that one. Do narcissists improve with age? No! Narcissists are not like wine, and they’ll only get worse! They’ll age more like milk by turning sour. Are narcissists dangerous? Yes! They can be very dangerous! Especially when enraged or protecting their fragile but inflated ego. As they have no real empathy for anyone outside of themselves, morals or ethics - the more malignant the narcissist, the more dangers you’ll face - so, best run! Can you fight them at their own game and win? Absolutely! But be aware some malignant narcissists are fully prepared to destroy themselves in order to destroy you - it will be a long hard battle fought in the gutter, and even if you are triumphant, perhaps it’s a gutter from which you’ll never fully remerge. Its best to adopt a stoic mindset grounded in indifference, stand back and let them fall into one of their own traps. Is narcissistic abuse on the rise? Yes, is the answer! It has been on the increase since the 1970’s and has now become trend or even an epidemic. No doubt fuelled by the rise of social media platforms, where one can assume complete autonomy and project a false sense of self. Often done with the intention to provoke a sense of envy in others, as those with narcissistic tendencies, naturally assume that because they themselves are envious of others, others will also be envious of them. How common are narcissists? Very common! Narcissistic abuse runs through the very fabric of society, adding to the dysfunction and breakdown of society. Often unbeknownst traits of this behaviour are also inherent within most familial upbringings, but largely remain undetected. Official figures can vairy and typically fluctuate at between three and eight percent of the total population. Abuse survivors based on their own experiences put this figure much higher again at between twenty and forty percent. On a more spiritual level those familiar with the concept of the journey of the Old Soul put the figure much higher again, at an eighty percent toxic to a twenty percent non-toxic ratio . . . and as many old souls again, have difficulty finding the missing twenty percent. So, could the real figure be even higher again? For the most accurate up to date statistic you might have to use a hat, filled with numerically numbered pieces of paper, dip your hand in, pull a number out, and go with that figure, as being the most official and accurate statistic. Is it all down to bad parenting? Well, yes, no and maybe? Some say the root causes for narcissism can either be the result of neglect by the parents or even the excessive over admiration by the parents. While no parent alive today would openly admit to being a bad parent, however, the same people might reminisce on their own childhood experiences would admit that perhaps their own parents could have done a better job. While everyone has some baggage in their childhood, but you grow up you learn to forgive. It’s likely though that narcissism steams from abuse or trauma encountered some in the early development stages, as they all exhibit the exact same trait behaviours. Children in the early development stages of life, learn incrementally - empathy is typically learned around the ages of two, three or four. As low levels of empathy may be an indication that trauma occurred then, which ties with the frequent regression traits in behaviour. Narcissists at a core level are just oversized children and when triggered, they regress back into the age at which the wounding occurred . . . otherwise the trait behaviours would be unique to each individual, and thus the dysfunctional characteristic behaviours would also be far more creative and far more dynamic. Is narcissism male or female trait? They can be one or the other, neither or both, and everything else in between! While females display more narcissistic traits than males, narcissistic, however, males account for sixty percent of the total figure, according to official figures. But as few men will openly admit to suffering at the hands of a female abuser, it’s likely that a high percentage of male abuse, goes undocumented. The common diagnoses of borderline personality disorder are almost solely reserved for the female population. Misdiagnoses might skew the statistics somewhat, as trait behaviours among the Cluster B’s overlap when triggered or in a ragging state of mind or maybe they manifest differently between both sexes. Many working within the abuse communities say the real figure is around a fifty-fifty split.
Where art meets psychology.
Questions about narcissism.
TO GRIN AND BEAR TO GRIN AND BEAR