To Grin and Bear
Where art meets psychology.
Narcissistic abuse terminology. Scapegoating: To assign blame onto an innocent individual, in order to deflect, mitigate or negate any sense of self-responsibility or accountability. Victim blaming: To accuse others of the abuse, that they themselves are guilty of doing to the abused. Triangulation: To pit two or more, unsuspecting people against each other, this can be either friends or arch enemies. The pity play: Abusers will always look for sympathy or emotional empathy by acting out, i.e., poor me! Gaslighting: Attempting to alter one’s perception of reality, to keep the abused second guessing themselves and questioning their past memories and their own sanity. Love bombing: Being extra loving when it matters, in order to gain some prized reward. Future faking: Keeping your mind fixated on a better tomorrow so you’ll accept all the abuse occurring in the present. Smear campaign: Dragging your name through the mud, so that they can look like the real victims. Projection: All their issues are your fault; they’ll never hold themselves accountable. Push and pull: Pull you close then push you away again, to create and establish a trauma bond. Black and white splitting: Viewing the world and its inhabitants in monochrome, lacking shades of grey - black is everything bad, white is everything good. Baiting: Setting traps for you to fall into, and should worm your way out of one trap . . . more will await! Word salad: Conversing in a random and nonsensical fashion, similar to speaking in tongues, to evade detection or to avoid important conversations. Ghosting: Abusers will frequently vanish into thin air, often for extended periods of time, loads of unanswered calls and texts, before reappearing again.
To Grin and Bear
Where art meets psychology.
Narcissistic abuse terminology.
Scapegoating: To assign blame onto an innocent individual, in order to deflect, mitigate or negate any sense of self-responsibility or accountability. Victim blaming: To accuse others of the abuse, that they themselves are guilty of doing to the abused. Triangulation: To pit two or more, unsuspecting people against each other, this can be either friends or arch enemies. The pity play: Abusers will always look for sympathy or emotional empathy by acting out, i.e., poor me! Gaslighting: Attempting to alter one’s perception of reality, to keep the abused second guessing themselves and questioning their past memories and their own sanity. Love bombing: Being extra loving when it matters, in order to gain some prized reward. Future faking: Keeping your mind fixated on a better tomorrow so you’ll accept all the abuse occurring in the present. Smear campaign: Dragging your name through the mud, so they can look like the real victims. Projection: All their issues are your fault; they’ll never hold themselves accountable. Push and pull: Pull you close then push you away again, to create and establish a trauma bond. Black and white splitting: Viewing the world and its inhabitants in monochrome, lacking shades of grey - black is everything bad, white is everything good. Baiting: Setting traps for you to fall into, and should worm your way out of one trap . . . more will await! Word salad: Conversing in a random and nonsensical fashion, similar to speaking in tongues, to evade detection or to avoid important conversations. Ghosting: Abusers will frequently vanish into thin air, often for extended periods of time, loads of unanswered calls and texts, before reappearing again.
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